Over 600 students attended the Brown Queer Alliance’s annual wild sex party, Sex Power God. How wild was it, you ask? Not as wild as in 2005, when Bill “Falafel” O’Reilly sent a undercover cameraman and “24 students required EMS attention.” This year, only 3 party-goers required EMS services (though 6 others who may or may not have attended the party also required attention). Decrease in alcohol poisoning aside, Sex Power God was probably still a lot of fun. Below, Aida Manduley, ’11, event coordinator, answers a few of my questions.
What was the hottest thing you saw at Sex Power God?
AM: Hottest things I’ve seen on the dance floor? Personally, just seeing couples dancing really well, sort of “performing” for each other and raving with the glow-sticks, then smiling at each other and dancing together really sensually. That’s the hottest thing–seeing the progression of attraction and how people perform for each other–because you can just FEEL the chemistry. It’s hot, it’s consensual, it’s super sexy, and it’s fun–a mix of lightheartedness that can beautifully segue into something very sexual and arousing. Seeing two people dancing, then slowly closing the distance between each other and closing their eyes as they kiss and move as a unit? It’s a wonderful thing. The sort of anticipation and degree of restraint as people negotiate boundaries and possibly hold off on sex until the dance is over is excellent, because the hottest thing for me is not just seeing people having sex on the dance floor. It happens, sure, but there are more layers of erotic complexity and tension when sex is NOT directly had at SPG.
“It happens?” “Sure?”
I come from a land (Columbia, unpopular subsection of) where sex on the dance floor is all but unthinkable. I am stunned and jealous. After the jump, Aida talks about bondage gear and calls me on my heteronormative assumptions.
What was the hottest outfit?
AM: Favorite outfits: A student that came in amazing fetish gear–an intense black vinyl corset, a collar, thigh-high boots, lace gloves, and some beautiful ruffled underwear. I’ve also seen some amazing body art done with liquid latex and body paint. This year, we had a student come as some sort of mermaid/sea-nymph in just body paint and in previous years we’ve had people tattoo their whole body with liquid latex designs. Oh, and gender-bending outfits are also pretty exciting. Mixing “masculine” elements with “feminine” elements with “______” elements tends to look amazing–guys in corsets, girls in mustaches and boxers, androgynous people that make you do a double-take. The more creative, the better, I always say. SPG is *the* place to express oneself however one wants because it has that air of safety, openness, and acceptance.
What was the ratio of gay to straight people?
AM: The ratio of gay to straight people? That is a question I have *tons* of problems with. First of all, there isn’t just “straight” and “gay.” Moreover, by virtue of SPG’s definition and “mission,” it’s a question no one can really answer. SPG is a space for exploration and pushing of one’s boundaries. Defining sexual orientation or preference by sexual performance and curiosity at SPG is ridiculous and impossible. There are many people who identify as heterosexual and wind up hooking up (to some degree) with people of the same sex, there are people who hook up with NO one for whatever reason, there are people who go and hook up with whomever regardless of their gender or their sex…We don’t ask people who they like or how they identify when we sell them their tickets and we don’t ask them when they leave. It’s irrelevant (and everyone’s personal business, anyway). What matters is that the dance-goers have a good time in a safe way.
But what about those dance-goers in monogamous relationships? Some don’t go. A female senior reports:
My feelings about SPG: I didn’t go because I’m in a relationship and my partner didn’t want to go. My suspicions, which were confirmed by friends of mine who went, are that you probably shouldn’t go to SPG without your partner if you’re committed to being monogamous. Even if you are with a group of friends, people will come up and start trying to dance with you/gyrating on you if you seem to lack a partner. The party is promoted as a safe space for sexual exploration, and party managers walk around and try to make sure that all the sexual activity happening is consensual. I would hope that if you just want to dance with your friends, someone wanting to get with you would respect that – but I thought it would probably be too much trouble for what it’s worth to be dealing with that constantly.
Ok, I really want to go to this party.